About the Book

Over 3 million copies sold

In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.

For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.

Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

About the Author

MARK MANSON is the New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (with over 3 million in sales in the US alone) and a star blogger. Manson sold more than 50,000 copies of his self-published book, Models: Attract Women Through Honesty. Before long, his off-the-cuff voice was resonating with a much broader audience via his brilliantly counterintuitive essays on happiness. With titles like “The Most Important Question of Your Life,” “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck,” and “No, You Can’t Have It All” his work was being reposted by the likes of Elizabeth Gilbert and Loveline, and his site—markmanson.net—is read by over 2 million unique visitors per month. He has over 426K Facebook followers, and 91.8K followers on Twitter (@IAmMarkManson). Manson lives in New York City.

About the Reviews

While it sounds like an obvious gimmick (dropping an F-bomb in the title of a self-help book in order to show how "edgy" it is) Mark Manson's "The Subtle Art..." is a very well-written, deeply thought-out take on the perils of modern living. We can only care about so much, Manson posits, and most of us tend to waste that limited reservoir of "giving a f---" on the trivial, mundane, and shallow. How much better, then, would our lives be if we reserved that energy and focus for the things that truly matter?

Exactly how to achieve that focus forms the core of this book, and Manson offers several strategies to help you integrate that aim into your own life. As with all such books, the precise mechanics are left to the reader, but the principles here are sound and workable. It's difficult to escape the conclusion that the author is right: in a world where people care about such trivia as the winner of a TV show or the latest celebrity gossip, many of us need to adjust our priorities and ask ourselves just what, exactly, is worth caring about. This book is a great place to start. Highly recommended.

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What I like the most about this book is that my initial thought of; "This will be a good read- I'll probably get a provoking thought or two out of it", turned into, "Wow. This book has literally changed my life, for the better." Since I've finished it, I recommended it to four people, two of which have acquired the book, and I even got an extra copy as a gift for a friend. I intend to read this book every couple years or so for the times I need to be reminded of what improved my life so much in the first place. This is an easy read- yet written on a sophisticated level (despite the title), and I looked forward to every bit of free time I could dedicate to reading it. There were times I laughed, got teary eyed, and most importantly said, "hmmm, I never thought of it like that before..." I recommend this book to anyone who is open to changing their mindset, and can understand irony. Obviously the title is not instructing the reader to stop taking care in interest in EVERYTHING, so if that thought never crossed your mind upon reading the title, then I suggest you read this.

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This book is not about absolute nihilism - not giving a f* about anything ever. Instead, the premise is to pare down what we care about, and what we stress over.

The premise of the book is to look to the things that really matter in life and work on that. That means sometimes taking a hard look inside to see what trivial things we care about, and what mistakes we have made that must be changed. Personal accountability for ones' own life is paramount.

The "flow" of this book is a lot more like a blog. It's an easy read that feels more like a conversation than a treatise on nihilism. At times some of the story-telling goes on a bit longer, and sometimes it feels like there's a little filler. I think this book could use some edits to condense down the more salient points. (I almost gave 4 instead of 5 stars, but in fairness, it doesn't detract from the book overall).

As an aside, I got this book immediately after someone gifted me "The Secret," which is about as opposite of this book as it gets. While "The Secret" promotes thinking good thoughts so good things will happen (the "thoughts become things" premise), The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F* promotes personal growth and responsibility. I've recommended this book to most of my friends, and would recommend to anyone who feels constantly overwhelmed.

Product Info

Hardcover: 224 pages
Publisher: Harper; 2nd Edition edition (September 13, 2016)
Language: English
Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars 4,813 customer reviews

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