When you and your significant other find yourselves in a heated argument, it can be difficult to find a way to resolve things without just making them worse.

Knowing how to stop a fight from boiling over can help you two work things out in a calmer and more productive way.

Here are 5 steps you can take to de-escalate a fight with your partner.

1. Listen carefully

People often listen simply in order to respond. We communicate our thoughts and construct our rebuttals while the other person is in the middle of their sentences. We hear buzzwords that we seize upon in order to form our responses.

The proper way to practice active listening is to remove all distractions and look your partner in the eye. Do not assume a motive on their behalf.

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