Is it really love or is it something else? Sometimes what we think is love is actually something else entirely, and that something is not a good thing. Almost everyone has heard the quote “If you don’t love yourself you cannot love anyone else.” It really is true. If you love yourself you know what love looks like. You know how to treat people, and how you should be treated. You know what loving dialogue sounds like, and what demeaning dialogue sounds like.

When you love yourself, you respect yourself. You also recognize disrespect right away and will not tolerate it.  You attract, and are attracted, to people who treat you with love. When you do not love yourself, you are insecure. You are attracted to people who make you feel insecure. You want to win their affections, but at the same time, feel unworthy of them.

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