I know that “purpose” is an incredibly hot self-help buzzword these days. If you were to do an internet search on the word, you would probably find dozens of events, workshops, and even blogs hoping to teach about the importance of purpose, and how you can find it.

For a long, long time I lived in the purpose rabbit hole. I read the blogs and attended the workshops because I believed that purpose was incredibly important, and that, if I really wanted to be successful and better yet, live a fulfilled life, I had to find my purpose.

While deeply stuck in that hole, I believed that purpose was a tangible, knowable thing that functioned outside of myself. And it felt very, very elusive to me under those circumstances. I thought that if I dug deep enough and did enough work, I would magically come up with a title or answer that would completely define my purpose, and why I’m here on this planet.

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