I think one of my children is stealing from me. Occasionally at home I’ll open my purse to find less in it than I expected. It’s only a few pounds here and there, but money is tight and I try to give them everything they need, even if I can’t always manage everything they want. What do I do? I don’t want to set a trap.

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