As a Black, gay woman, I am reminded of how different I am every single day. Growing up, I struggled to appreciate who was and thought I would never belong or fit in. From going to an all-white school as a child to being outed by someone I trusted in college, I had to overcome innumerable obstacles to get to a place of self-love and acceptance. It's not easy having the cards stacked against you, but if there's anything I've learned, it's that the life you really want and deserve is out there—you just have to fight with everything you've got to get it.

From the time I was 2-years-old until I was 13, I went to a Catholic school where the only Black people I knew were my family. We stuck out like sore thumbs, and my classmates and teachers had no problem reminding us of that. I felt like my entire existence—from my heritage and socioeconomic status to my participation in class—was made fun of by my classmates. But nothing was the brunt of more jokes than my appearance. I was told that my braids were weird because "it looked like I had a bunch of ropes on my head." I was asked if I put cooking oil in my hair and told that my head would probably fry if I went outside in the sun. And these are just a few of the many comments about my hair, nevermind the rest of my body, especially the color of my skin.

More in category

Fauci says no one in the administration has seen vaccine data despite Trump's boasts that the US will have one 'very soon'
September 22, 2020MSN
Fauci says no one in the administration has seen vaccine data despite Trump's boasts that the US will have one 'very soon'
How New Yorkers Found Resolve After 6 Months of Pandemic Hardship
September 23, 2020The NY Times
How New Yorkers Found Resolve After 6 Months of Pandemic Hardship
Research adds evidence of asymptomatic spread
September 22, 2020MSN
Research adds evidence of asymptomatic spread
Ruth Bader Ginsburg's Role in Advancing the Rights of People With Disabilities
September 22, 2020MSN
Ruth Bader Ginsburg's Role in Advancing the Rights of People With Disabilities
I'm Very Grateful For My Pregnancy, but I'm Finding the Experience Very Uncomfortable
September 22, 2020MSN
I'm Very Grateful For My Pregnancy, but I'm Finding the Experience Very Uncomfortable
Lady Gaga, mom Cynthia get candid on mental health
September 22, 2020MSN
Lady Gaga, mom Cynthia get candid on mental health
Dr. Fauci's 3 Tips For Healthy Living Will Help Your Immune System Function Optimally
September 22, 2020MSN
Dr. Fauci's 3 Tips For Healthy Living Will Help Your Immune System Function Optimally
N.Y.C. Warns About Rising Virus Cases in Hasidic Neighborhoods
September 22, 2020The NY Times
N.Y.C. Warns About Rising Virus Cases in Hasidic Neighborhoods
You're Twice as Likely to Die of Coronavirus If You Live Here, Study Says
September 22, 2020MSN
You're Twice as Likely to Die of Coronavirus If You Live Here, Study Says
House passes funding bill with GOP support to avert looming government shutdown
September 22, 2020MSN
House passes funding bill with GOP support to avert looming government shutdown
Fauci calls 200,000 deaths 'sobering' and 'stunning'
September 22, 2020MSN
Fauci calls 200,000 deaths 'sobering' and 'stunning'
We're Going Full Benjamin Button: Adults Over 70 Are Getting Healthier With Age
September 22, 2020mindbodygreen
We're Going Full Benjamin Button: Adults Over 70 Are Getting Healthier With Age
As the US surpasses 200,000 Covid-19 deaths, survivors have a message: This is not a hoax
September 22, 2020MSN
As the US surpasses 200,000 Covid-19 deaths, survivors have a message: This is not a hoax
Many Swear By This Ingredient For A Dewy, Fresh Face: 5 Ways To Slather On
September 22, 2020mindbodygreen
Many Swear By This Ingredient For A Dewy, Fresh Face: 5 Ways To Slather On
This Is the No. 1 Mental Health Mistake You're Making Right Now
September 22, 2020MSN
This Is the No. 1 Mental Health Mistake You're Making Right Now
Pelosi, Mnuchin reach deal to avoid government shutdown
September 22, 2020MSN
Pelosi, Mnuchin reach deal to avoid government shutdown
SG schools boost AI learning
September 22, 2020MSN
SG schools boost AI learning
To Mental Health Professionals: Stop Calling Your 'Difficult' Patients 'Borderline'
September 22, 2020MSN
To Mental Health Professionals: Stop Calling Your 'Difficult' Patients 'Borderline'
The different types of insulin and how to use them for diabetes treatment
September 22, 2020MSN
The different types of insulin and how to use them for diabetes treatment
Amazon Has a Great Deal Today on One of Our Favorite Indoor Rowing Machines
September 22, 2020MSN
Amazon Has a Great Deal Today on One of Our Favorite Indoor Rowing Machines
Best yoga mat 2020 as recommended by professional yogis
September 22, 2020MSN
Best yoga mat 2020 as recommended by professional yogis