Every parent has had one of those days. You’re on edge and your kids start whining.  Against your better instincts, you raise your voice, which quickly causes them to erupt into tears. You didn’t want this to be the outcome and now you’re mad at yourself as a parent and starting in with the negative self-talk, saying everything from “Good move, idiot,” to “Could I just do something right?”

Self-deprecating thoughts about how much you suck at parenting may seem like appropriate penance for your mess-ups, but this type of thinking doesn’t just affect your self-esteem. According to Abby Gagerman, a Chicago-based therapist, shame-based self talk –if left unchecked – can increase stress levels, or even result in anxiety and depression as well as trigger a self-fulfilling prophecy that also impacts your kids. 

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