What do we generally do when we go on a first date?

Do we show up tired and shabby-looking, interrupt the other person and generally carry on as though we never left our living room? Are we obviously disinterested, checking our phones constantly and hurrying the other through their stories?

Of course not! But if you do incorporate some of your usual behaviors into the polished, shellacked, sparkling version of yourself you are presenting to this new person, more power to you. People need to learn to love us for the bad with the good and not the other way around.

It’s so much EASIER to fall for the good, though. It’s true…but it just sets you up for a relationship built on dishonesty, false hopes, shuttered dreams and a look you can’t possibly maintain once you’ve had any kind of physical intimacy whatsoever. (NOBODY wakes up “that way”. Nope.)

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